My one year old has a little issue with his temper. In fact, he has been slamming his head on the floor when he does not get his way. Anxious to nip this joyful behavior in the bud before the Terrible Two’s hit, I scoured the internet for advice. To save you the time of doing a ton of reading, I decided to summarize what I read for you:
Tantrums are the result of a frustrated child, except for when they are being manipulative. Young children are NEVER being manipulative. You should always try to talk to the child to help him understand his feelings and to give him the words to express himself. One year olds cannot express themselves. Temper tantrums are the result of kids not having the right words to express themselves.
You should always ignore a tantrum. Never leave a child alone when he is in the midst of a tantrum. You should always comfort a child when they are overly upset. If ignoring the tantrum does not work, physically place them in a safe place and leave them there until they calm down. Always pick them up and hold them after a tantrum and reassure them that you love them. Never reward a tantrum, make sure you let them know that such behavior is unacceptable. Tantrums are a normal part of childhood. Things will go better for you if you just accept this.
Children know exactly what they are doing when they have tantrums, and children are often scared and unable to regulate their emotions. Try to keep them well-rested because tired children tend to have a difficult time regulating their emotions. It is perfectly fine to allow children to experience tantrums because this will help them learn to regulate their emotions better. College-age kids will still throw themselves onto the ground in a tantrum if you do not teach them when they are young how to regulate their emotions. One year olds cannot regulate their emotions.
Hope this summary helps you struggling parents out there! Hang in there.